Category Archives: Attitude

“My life feels out of control.”

Posted on Tuesday, May 14, 2013 by Alison

If you are facing disease, a break up of a relationship, tragic choices made by family members, or financial distress, your life can feel out of control. As a result, you can feel helpless and powerless, and become anxious, overwhelmed, … Continue reading →

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Bad mood: “I feel so bad and don’t feel like doing anything.”

Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 by Alison

Minor forms of mental or physical toxicity all contribute to unhappiness and suffering. When your physical chemistry is askew or your thinking is in a rut, the result can be mild despondency and lethargy. Unless you are suffering from clinical … Continue reading →

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Performance Anxiety:
“I want to be totally relaxed instead of anxious when I compete in sports or engage in public speaking.”

Posted on Friday, February 22, 2013 by Alison

Think of how little anxiety you experience when you are sitting comfortably on your couch at home watching TV. Now imagine that you are going to perform a concert, give a speech, compete in a tournament, or go on a … Continue reading →

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Gossip vs. Honesty:
“It is better to be honest and realistic than to pretend everyone is such an angel when they are not.”

Posted on Wednesday, February 20, 2013 by Alison

I don’t advocate pretending that everyone is wonderful. It is worthwhile, however, to consider whether discussing how inane, incapable, or insufferable other people are contributes to your own life or to those around you. Sometimes it is interesting to attempt … Continue reading →

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Feeling Shame:
“I’m not worthy to be loved.”

Posted on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 by Alison

People who feel ongoing shame feel uncomfortable and self-consciousness because of their deeply-held feelings of inadequacy, which do not reflect objective reality. Often they lacked an adult role-model in their early lives who demonstrated both love and reasonable, constructive criticism. … Continue reading →

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Judgment: “My co-worker is an idiot.”

Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2013 by Alison

Changing negative judgmental thinking into positive, though realistic, thinking changes the way you experience life and the people around you. Once you alter the lens you look through, the way you see others and the way they see themselves in … Continue reading →

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Live and Improve Every Moment
“Life is a drag.”

Posted on Friday, January 4, 2013 by Alison

Life is made up of many more ordinary moments than extraordinary ones, like working at the computer, going to the store, or sitting in traffic. Yet, brain research shows that happiness is related more to your state of mind than … Continue reading →

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“I fear something bad is going to happen. It feels like the end of the world.”

Posted on Friday, December 21, 2012 by Alison

Anxiety is part of being human. Yet most people feel uncomfortable with anxiety; so they tend to attach it to something external to make sense of it. Freud pointed out that free-floating anxiety often gets attributed to objects or situations, … Continue reading →

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