Category Archives: Conflict

Parenting: “What did I tell you!”

Posted on Tuesday, April 23, 2013 by Alison

When your child (or anyone else) admits to doing something wrong, it is very tempting to be angry and say, “What did I tell you!” It is particularly hard to resist gloating when you’re dealing with a know-it-all teenager. Yet … Continue reading →

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Ending an Abusive Relationship:
“I feel guilty leaving my abusive partner, because I have compassion for him.”

Posted on Monday, April 8, 2013 by Alison

Life would be so simple if a person were either all bad or all good. However, most people, even abusive people, have some good qualities or they would not have drawn others into a relationship to begin with. Abuse in … Continue reading →

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Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
“He Abuses Me in So Many Ways. How do I Cope?”

Posted on Friday, March 29, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: In his frantic efforts to maintain control or re-assert it, the abuser resorts to myriad of fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms. Here is a partial list: Unpredictability and Uncertainty (Intermittent Reinforcement) The abuser acts … Continue reading →

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Abusive emails from an ex:
“I keep defending myself against never-ending false, accusatory emails from my ex-husband, because I want to stay on good terms.”

Posted on Wednesday, March 6, 2013 by Alison

While it is admirable that you want to maintain a friendly relationship with your ex, you cannot do so alone; it takes two. The power of irrational attacks Insults and lies directed at you are intended to draw you in … Continue reading →

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Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
“I Want Him to Pay a Price for What He Did – Yes: I want REVENGE!”

Posted on Monday, January 28, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: The need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways: 1. Punitive-moralistic The aim of this type of vengeance is … Continue reading →

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Anger: “I have a right to be angry.”

Posted on Wednesday, December 19, 2012 by Alison

Anger as a signal When you feel anger rising in your belly, your subconscious is telling you something. Usually anger is warning you to pay attention and perhaps to take action in order to avoid potential pain or loss. Anger … Continue reading →

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GUEST AUTHOR J.C. writes about Alcoholism in the Family
“I’m stressed out because she won’t quit drinking.”

Posted on Tuesday, December 11, 2012 by Alison

Guest Author J.C., Founder of “Alcoholics Friend” website, submits this article: Four Solutions To One Huge Problem – Alcoholism in the Family If you are looking for a way to get an alcoholic in the family to stop drinking, I … Continue reading →

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Dealing with Brashness:
“I feel miserable because she has been so short with me.”

Posted on Tuesday, December 4, 2012 by Alison

Don’t take it personally and do not allow yourself to become miserable! Speak up right away when someone is short with you. Don’t assume others can read your mind, and don’t assume that they are even aware of their own … Continue reading →

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