Category Archives: Visiting Authors

Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
“I Hate to Fail, but I also Dread Success. What Gives?”

Posted on Monday, April 29, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: Some people rarely fail, but they are no roaring successes, either. They linger in a limbo, somewhere between minimal attainment and mediocrity. They pass, but never quite make it. They seem to fear and … Continue reading →

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Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
“He Abuses Me in So Many Ways. How do I Cope?”

Posted on Friday, March 29, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: In his frantic efforts to maintain control or re-assert it, the abuser resorts to myriad of fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms. Here is a partial list: Unpredictability and Uncertainty (Intermittent Reinforcement) The abuser acts … Continue reading →

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Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
People-pleasers and Pathological Charmers

Posted on Thursday, February 28, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: People-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) – hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and … Continue reading →

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Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
“I Want Him to Pay a Price for What He Did – Yes: I want REVENGE!”

Posted on Monday, January 28, 2013 by Alison

GUEST AUTHOR Sam Vaknin, PhD writes: The need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways: 1. Punitive-moralistic The aim of this type of vengeance is … Continue reading →

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Codependence by GUEST AUTHOR SAM VAKNIN, PhD:
Issues and Goals in the Treatment of Dependent Personality Disorder

Posted on Monday, December 31, 2012 by Alison

Guest Author SAM VAKNIN, PhD: You have been diagnosed with Dependent Personality Disorder (Codependence, or Codependency) and you have decided to attend therapy. Here is a brief guide to the personal issues that you should tackle and the goals that … Continue reading →

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GUEST AUTHOR J.C. writes about Alcoholism in the Family
“I’m stressed out because she won’t quit drinking.”

Posted on Tuesday, December 11, 2012 by Alison

Guest Author J.C., Founder of “Alcoholics Friend” website, submits this article: Four Solutions To One Huge Problem – Alcoholism in the Family If you are looking for a way to get an alcoholic in the family to stop drinking, I … Continue reading →

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Guest Author Sam Vaknin, PhD:
“My Wife’s Separate Vacation Spells the Beginning of the End of Our Relationship”

Posted on Monday, November 26, 2012 by Alison

Separate vacations may, indeed, signify the beginning of the end of your relationship – or serve as a boost to its quality and durability. It all depends on several factors: 1. Topical vs. recreational vacations If your wife is addicted … Continue reading →

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Guest Author Sam Vaknin, PhD
Romantic Jealousy:

“I can’t think of him/her with another man/woman.”

Posted on Friday, October 19, 2012 by Alison

Pathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of … Continue reading →

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