Tag Archives: critical

Judgment: “My co-worker is an idiot.”

Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2013 by Alison

Changing negative judgmental thinking into positive, though realistic, thinking changes the way you experience life and the people around you. Once you alter the lens you look through, the way you see others and the way they see themselves in … Continue reading →

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Motivating Change:
“I can’t stop criticizing my partner.”

Posted on Thursday, October 11, 2012 by Alison

It takes tremendous will power to change our unwanted habits and behavior. One way to boost your will power is by imagining what your future will be like after five or ten more years of criticizing your partner. Not only … Continue reading →

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“I’m his biggest fan and he treats me like a slave.”

Posted on Friday, March 2, 2012 by Alison

Isn’t it curious that some people tend to become more critical, cold, and cruel with the very people who champion them the most? Why would someone treat their admirers worse than their critics? People who devalue their biggest supporters — … Continue reading →

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“My wife seems obsessed with criticizing a particular acquaintance of ours.”

Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2011 by Alison

While your wife’s preoccupation seems to be all about the acquaintance, it’s probably more about herself. Obsessive preoccupation about a particular person means there’s something worthwhile to look into if she’s willing to be reflective. Without putting your wife on … Continue reading →

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“People are always criticizing me.”

Posted on Monday, April 4, 2011 by Alison

If you are frequently criticized for a particular trait, you might consider whether people have a point. But if you seem to generally bring out the critical side of people, it could be that you are influencing this pattern by … Continue reading →

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“I feel so critical of my partner. I can’t help pointing out every flaw.”

Posted on Wednesday, February 23, 2011 by Alison

There are three important reasons to look for the positive in your partner. First, how you treat other people becomes who you are. Would you rather be understanding, supportive, appreciative and optimistic, or critical, stern, mean-spirited, and nit-picking? When you … Continue reading →

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