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Tag Archives: criticism
Judgment: “My co-worker is an idiot.”
Changing negative judgmental thinking into positive, though realistic, thinking changes the way you experience life and the people around you. Once you alter the lens you look through, the way you see others and the way they see themselves in … Continue reading
Motivating Change:
“I can’t stop criticizing my partner.”
It takes tremendous will power to change our unwanted habits and behavior. One way to boost your will power is by imagining what your future will be like after five or ten more years of criticizing your partner. Not only … Continue reading
“How could you be so idiotic as to rear-end that car!”
So what I really meant was… “Why don’t you talk to the other driver and see if the passengers are okay. I’ll look up the number for the insurance company for you.” Focus on what to do rather than what … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Parenting
Tagged anger, car accident, criticism, doing too much, natural consequences
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Handling Criticism:
“Don’t criticize me. This is the way I’ve always done it!”
If we do anything interesting in life, we’re bound to be criticized. It’s best to handle criticism without becoming defensive or taking it personally. First consider the motivation of the person criticizing you. When you understand the motivation behind the … Continue reading
Inspire vs. Pushing:
“Why don’t you just believe in yourself!”
When we believe in others more than they believe in themselves, we want to push them to become what we see in them. Our intentions are noble; our passion authentic. The trouble is that children and adults alike are likely … Continue reading
Posted in Communication, Relationship Skills
Tagged attack, criticism, inspire, persuade, pushing
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Inner Critics attract Critical Partners: “Why does my partner criticize me all the time?”
Some people are critical of others, while others are more critical of themselves. Self-critical people People who have been severely criticized while growing up often develop an excessively harsh inner critic. They are primed to accept criticism, even when it … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Personality Traits
Tagged critical partner, criticism, Inner critic, judgmental parnter, self-critical
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Narcissism Part 3 (of 5): “You are the smartest kid ever!” Avoid raising narcissistic children.
Children who grow up to be narcissistic adults seek praise as addicts seek their drug of choice—in increasing quantities from anyone who will give it to them. Neglect, abuse, harsh criticism, and erratic or exaggerated praise can lead children to … Continue reading
Posted in Parenting, Personality Traits
Tagged children, criticism, empathy, narcissism, narcissistic, Parenting, raising kids without narcissism
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