Tag Archives: dating

Enjoying the Moment:
“I wonder if he’ll like me.”

Posted on Sunday, October 21, 2012 by Alison

So what I really meant was… “I’ll just enjoy our time together and not worry about where this goes.” Worrying about whether someone likes you will not make you more likeable and the evening more enjoyable. If you enjoy the … Continue reading →

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“Does she like me? She doesn’t text me like she did at the beginning.”

Posted on Thursday, October 18, 2012 by Alison

It would be a miracle to find another person whom you’re attracted to and who shares the same expectations and attitude toward relationships that you do. One person may feel hurt when his texts aren’t responded to often enough. The … Continue reading →

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Guest Author Sam Vaknin, PhD:
“I am Afraid to Date Again. I am considering Online Dating instead of the Real Thing.”

Posted on Monday, May 7, 2012 by Alison

There is a delicate balance to be maintained between the need to process the trauma of divorce to recuperate, heal, and recover) and the need to maintain the interpersonal skills essential to dating and, later, to bonding and pair-formation (pairing). … Continue reading →

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Bragging on a First Date:
“I graduated with top honors and live on Snobhill.”

Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2011 by Alison

Reciting your resumé and accomplishments on a first date suggests that you are compensating for feelings of inadequacy. Bragging also attracts people who will want you to pull them into a false sense of superiority. It’s actually more impressive, and … Continue reading →

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The Harsh Inner Critic:
“I told her I love her on the first date. I am such an idiot.”

Posted on Thursday, February 24, 2011 by Alison

We all have an inner critic, which is necessary to stop us from engaging in illegal or unethical behavior and saying outrageous things. However, a tyrannical inner critic can be debilitating and lead to feelings of inadequacy and depression, preventing … Continue reading →

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“Why didn’t you call me? I’ve been waiting to see if we’re getting together tonight.”

Posted on Tuesday, February 22, 2011 by Alison

If you have definite plans, call the person to verify the time. Or if you want to make plans, call, be cool, be positive. But if you are simply hoping that a guy or girl likes you and will follow … Continue reading →

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