Tag Archives: resentment

Dividing up Household Chores:
“The house is a mess!”

Posted on Wednesday, March 14, 2012 by Alison

Can a clean house eliminate family conflict? Does a messy home make or break a relationship? Too much clutter tends to confuse the mind while good feng shui enhances harmony in the home. Nevertheless, family conflict stems more from how … Continue reading →

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Jealousy of Others:
“I feel bad about myself when I’m around him.”

Posted on Wednesday, February 1, 2012 by Alison

It’s natural to compare ourselves to others — to see how we are doing and how we could do better. We can learn by observing — whether it’s a job, a sport, or how someone relates to others. Comparing ourselves … Continue reading →

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Living together Part 2: Fairness — “Well, I’m paying for everything!”

Posted on Thursday, October 6, 2011 by Alison

Be fair with others, but then keep after them until they’re fair with you. ~Alan Alda In addition to having manners and maintaining boundaries, being fair in what you contribute in a household makes a big difference in long-term relationships. … Continue reading →

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“It’s unfair that the rich have more fun!”

Posted on Friday, June 17, 2011 by Alison

So what I really meant was… “I’m going to have more fun!” by Alison Poulsen, PhD Read “When friends ask me to go out to eat I’m embarrassed that I can’t afford to go out.”

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Resentment Part 4:
“I do it all and get no recognition.”
Ten Ways to eliminate resentment through self-empowerment.

Posted on Thursday, June 16, 2011 by Alison

Research shows that putting intentions in writing helps a person achieve his or her goals. So the most effective way to improve your responses to hot button moments is to personalize the following ideas that are most relevant to you … Continue reading →

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Resentment Part 3:
Irrational thinking:
“I’ll reject them before they reject me.”

Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 by Alison

Resentment eats away at a person’s well-being. The resentful person becomes unhappy, works less effectively, and pushes people away. Yet, the person resented is not called to task and is barely affected by the resentment. Often, resentment is based on … Continue reading →

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Resentment Part 2:
“If I say anything, it will just make things worse.”

Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2011 by Alison

Recognizing signs of Resentment: 1. Using phony friendliness to cover your true feelings. 2. Speaking sarcastically about the person resented. 3. Speaking in a demeaning way about the person resented. 4. Expressing agitation and unexpected anger for no apparent reason. … Continue reading →

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Resentment Part 1:
“She got the job even though I work much harder. Hard work is a waste of time.”

Posted on Monday, June 13, 2011 by Alison

Resentment is the feeling of bitterness, anger, or hatred resulting from a real or imagined wrong. The key difference between resentment, anger and contempt stems from how a person perceives the status of the wrong-doer. Resentment is directed at people … Continue reading →

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