Tag Archives: trust

“Can I trust you?”

Posted on Thursday, January 10, 2013 by Alison

Trust is developed over time by observing a person’s behavior. A good indicator of trustworthiness is a person’s ability to resist immediate impulses. Take note of the following: • Does she have impulse control? • Is he able to resist … Continue reading →

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Guest Author Sam Vaknin, PhD
Romantic Jealousy:

“I can’t think of him/her with another man/woman.”

Posted on Friday, October 19, 2012 by Alison

Pathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of … Continue reading →

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Creating Trust:
“Don’t you trust me? Despite my faults, you know I love you.”

Posted on Friday, June 15, 2012 by Alison

Trust is as important as love in sustaining a long-term loving relationship. It’s wonderful to be affectionate and passionate. However, these qualities alone are not a substitute for trust. Why would your partner not trust you? Trust is influenced by … Continue reading →

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Guest Author Sam Vaknin, PhD:
“How can I Trust Again?”

Posted on Wednesday, April 4, 2012 by Alison

Our natural tendency is to trust, because, as infants, we trust our parents. It feels good to really trust. It is also an essential component of love and an important test thereof. Love without trust is dependence masquerading as love. … Continue reading →

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Narcissism Part 5 (of 5): “Think about how I feel.” 7 Points to Dealing with a Narcissist.

Posted on Friday, May 27, 2011 by Alison

Don’t Trust a Narcissist: Don’t look for intimacy with a narcissist. If you decide to enjoy the narcissist’s charm and charisma, make sure that doesn’t translate into trusting him or her with inner secrets. Don’t set yourself up for betrayal … Continue reading →

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“After multiple affairs, he promised he’d never cheat on me again. Can I trust him this time?”

Posted on Monday, March 28, 2011 by Alison

No. Sorry to say, someone who repeatedly cheats on his or her partner is unlikely to stop. Repeated cheating often involves a ravenous craving for both psychological validation and the dopamine high that are briefly produced in the affair. Having … Continue reading →

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Manipulation:
“I value honesty and can’t stand dealing with manipulative people.”

Posted on Monday, March 7, 2011 by Alison

You won’t like hearing this, but often when you “can’t stand” a certain quality in people, it means you need to develop the positive version of that quality in yourself. The solution to dealing with manipulators is to develop a … Continue reading →

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