“We never go dancing or do anything fun anymore!”

"Dazzle" by Mimi Stuart
Live the Life you Desire

So what I really meant was…

“Let’s go dancing!”

Exaggeration and blame make people feel defensive instead of accommodating. Self-pity is unattractive. It is definitely not a seductive way to get someone to want to go dancing with you!

When people show excitement and personal authority they have a lot more magnetism than when they complain. The underlying desire is positive. So say it in a positive, irresistible way: “I’d love it if you came dancing with me tonight/next week/every Saturday!”

by Alison Poulsen, PhD

Read “Spending Time Together as a Couple.”

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