Manipulation:
“I value honesty and can’t stand dealing with manipulative people.”

"Allure" by Mimi Stuart
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You won’t like hearing this, but often when you “can’t stand” a certain quality in people, it means you need to develop the positive version of that quality in yourself.

The solution to dealing with manipulators is to develop a small dose of your own manipulative side in a positive way, namely, learning to be diplomatic and take into account your particular audience.

If you completely disown your manipulative/diplomatic side, you may unconsciously draw manipulative people into your orbit, becoming an easy victim. Also, a manipulative side that remains unconscious is in danger of erupting out of the shadow when you least expect it and to everybody else’s total surprise.

The benefits of having access to diplomacy, shrewdness and discretion include self-preservation and being able to deal with different types of people. While honesty generally promotes trust, it can be considered rude to be too honest in some cultures and subcultures. When dealing with manipulative people, it can be foolish and even self-destructive to be too honest.

Healthy flexibility in your ability to relate with different types allows you to enjoy and protect yourself with a wider range of people. Also, many positive skills require some diplomatic framing; how could you get and hold a job or flirt without a little diplomacy?

by Alison Poulsen, PhD

Read “The Benefit of People who Bug you” by J’aime ona Pangaia.

Read “Lying: I get so mad that my family lies to me all the time.”

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3 thoughts on “Manipulation:
“I value honesty and can’t stand dealing with manipulative people.”

  1. Pingback: Lying: “I get so mad that my family lies to me all the time.” | Healthy Relationships and Solutions to Happiness and Love

  2. Moja Kolczynka

    Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally, it seems as though you relied on the video to make your point. You obviously know what youre talking about, why throw away your intelligence on just posting videos to your site when you could be giving us something informative to read?

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