Comparing Children:
“What a mess! Why can’t you clean your room and do things right like your brother?”

"The Wright Brothers" by Mimi Stuart
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So what I really meant was…

“I’d like you to organize your room. Please clean it up before dinner. Do you need help getting started?”

It’s best to be direct with children, that is, firm and respectful, even when their idea of cleaning is “to sweep the room with a glance,” as Erma Bombeck would say.

Comparisons don’t motivate or inspire children. They only dishearten them and invoke sibling rivalry and jealousy.

The surest route to breeding jealousy is to compare. Since jealousy comes from feeling “less than” another, comparisons only fan the fires.

~Dorothee Corkville Briggs

by Alison Poulsen, PhD

Read “Don’t Blame: Who tracked all this mud into the house? How thoughtless!”

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