“I’d be happy to consider doing that for you if you would speak to me respectfully.”
Unfortunately people close to you may need to be reminded to be polite if they begin to take you for granted.
Why would anyone be motivated to help someone who is being rude? While it’s appropriate to be upset and important to stop the disrespectful behavior, there is no need to overreact. Calling someone a name and being demeaning yourself will only aggravate the situation.
You are more likely to change the relationship dynamic if you keep your cool while giving the other person an opportunity to show his or her better side.
by Alison Poulsen, PhD