Parenting

ENCOURAGING EFFORT

Eighty-five percent of parents think that telling their children they’re smart builds their self-confidence. Yet, praising children for their intelligence, rather than their effort, saps their motivation. Through 30 years of research, Professor Dweck of Stanford found that the key to success in school or work is believing that intelligence is developed rather than simply inborn and fixed…click here to read the article

FEARFUL CHILDREN

Fear is normal. Having a healthy amount of fear without being overwhelmed by it keeps us alert. Children should learn that fear is a natural response to the unknown that can keep them safe. Yet, children’s fear can turn to panic if it’s dwelled upon or go underground if it is minimized or ridiculed…click here to read the article

PARENTING TOGETHER: AUTHORITARIAN VS. PERMISSIVE PARENTING

Many couples struggle with their different parenting styles, one being generally strict and one laissez faire. We also struggle within ourselves-if we are too permissive and things become chaotic, we may explode with anger. If we are overly strict and that doesn’t work, we may give up completely. Often, one spouse allows the other to do all the parenting or to determine the style of parenting because of his or her fear of conflict. Although there’s no apparent struggle here, one spouse has given up his or her ability to take a stand…click here to read the article

WHO COMES FIRST: YOUR PARTNER OR YOUR CHILDREN?

Are you connecting more with your children, your friends, or the internet than with your partner? When your partner is demoted to second place behind the children, a pet, a friend, or the internet—the partnership is bound to deteriorate. This does not mean that we have to neglect our children or friends, but that…click here to read the article