Personality Traits

WHY PEOPLE GOSSIP AND HOW TO AVOID IT

Gossip is unconstrained and often derogatory conversation about other people, and can involve betraying a confidence and spreading sensitive information or hurtful judgments. Research shows that people who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety. They are generally not particularly popular because they cannot be trusted…click here to read the article

ORDER AND SPONTANEITY

Order and freedom are two of many deep-seated needs that often conflict with one another. Thus, people tend to favor one to the exclusion of the other. Some experience a need for order in terms of their physical surroundings, requiring that everything in the home and the office be clean, neat, and organized. Some may adhere strictly to a financial budget…click here to read the article

PLEASER VS. RECEIVER

A common dynamic seen within couples is that one partner tends to please while the other tends to receive (the giver and the taker). These opposites attract each other, because they are complementary and each partner needs to develop some of the qualities of the other side. If each partner becomes more one-sided and excessive in giving or taking, the relationship becomes more and more oppressive and unsatisfying. Ideally…click here to read more

TEACHING TOO MUCH

Have you ever delighted in sharing your expertise, only to be surprised by a cold response? Whether we’re teaching our partners how to ski or explaining how to use the computer, it’s easy to alienate them when we get in the mode of teacher. Despite our passion about the subject, we may unknowingly lack connection to the person we’re talking to or have an attitude of superiority…click here to read the article

TOO RESPONSIBLE TO ENJOY

Alison,

I love my family, and have been loyal, dependable, responsible, and hard-working. I don’t like to complain, but it seems as though my wife enjoys and gives more of herself to her friends than to me…click here to read the article