Pursuing your Passions in Relationship

To have a healthy, happy relationship, it’s important to pursue your own passions and interests, and encourage your partner to do the same. You don’t have to do everything together.

by Dr. Alison Poulsen


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5 thoughts on “Pursuing your Passions in Relationship

  1. seshu

    I really enjoy reading your blog,lot of wisdom,i find myself empath,it has down side to it ,eventhough you explained what it is you didnt mention how to get over,I survived lot of traumas in my background because of that,I struggle with surviver guilt,no one is able to help with this excruciating guilt,can you please help me to over come it

    1. Alison Post author

      Thank you for your comments.

      I’m sorry not to have something remarkable to say to help you. I think understanding that you have survivor’s guilt and that your guilt is not reflective of real blame is the first step to overcoming this emotion, which is only harmful to you and those who love you. Often, however, understanding is not enough. The fact that you say you have survived a lot of trauma and that your survivor’s guilt is “excruciating” indicates that you need to get some specific help to rewire your brain. Logical understanding is not enough, although it’s an important first step.

      You might consider EMDR, which can be very effective for overcoming trauma. Also, I like CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and voice dialogue. Here are some resources for voice dialogue therapists: http://www.voicedialogueinternational.com/resources-index.htm

      As always, your comfort with the therapist is most important. In fact, the particular therapist can be more important than the kind of therapy offered. Don’t hesitate to interview a therapist or to change therapists. All three of these modes of therapy are aimed at changing your behavioral, physical and emotional responses to improve your well-being.

      All the best.


  2. Margeret Elmblad

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    1. admin Post author

      Thank you.
      It would be great if you would click on “Submit a Blunder”, and contribute a blunder and your idea of psychological advice to remedy it. I might cut it down a bit and I would then add something to it from my point of you. That way you can contribute. I keep the whole post from 140-260 words roughly. You can either be anonymous or you can post your name. Just let me know when you post the blunder.


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